I've had the ovaries to bring this up only twice to men I've been with.
Did that mean things were over between you two (which would make the timing of the last fuck an insult)? Let him know that you were thinking about taking things to the next level—ugh to that phrase—before he told you about the other girl.Or was he willing to pass on this other girl if you were ready for a relationship (which would make tossing him out before he could elaborate a mistake)? You were starting to fall for him, you hoped he felt the same, and you were disappointed.But since he was only doing what you asked—keeping it casual—you can't fault him for keeping his options open, looking around, dating other girls, etc.My second boyfriend found it degrading and wouldn't do it.
I think there are two things holding me back: (1) I've never even heard of this fantasy, and that makes me feel like a creep. (2) I know the first time I will giggle with joy and I'm afraid that will be a big buzzkill if my hypothetical future boyfriend thinks I'm laughing at him. There isn't a name for this fantasy, LWAM, so let's come up with one. Frank-N-Furter, a noted research scientist who also enjoyed dressing straight boys up in fishnets, teddies, and heels.
QI am a hetero female, but one of my biggest fantasies is for a guy to dress up in women's underwear.