Dating service keeps calling
"Because of the fact that we do cater to wealthy demographic, we do get an influx of scammers," he says. Seeking Arrangement got its latest stats from screening new profiles over 10 months.
The profiles first go through automated screening software, which flags both traits in the profile, such as certain ethnicities, and things that aren't visible in the profile, such as certain IP addresses and even certain passwords that scammers seem to like more than other people.
“No one expects to meet in person after just a couple of emails, but if you’ve been corresponding regularly, it’s expected that you’ll take your relationship offline.
If the person doesn’t even want to talk on the phone or meet for coffee, it’s okay to wonder what his motivations are.
He might just be nervous, but he could also be someone other than who he says he is.
I exchanged phone numbers with a guy, and when he called me to set up a date, he was drunk,” says Lindsay.
Some brazen daters even post contradictory information right on their profile (“I’m really forty, even though I listed my age as thirty-five”), as justification for trying to show up in more searches for “men over six feet tall,” or “women under forty.” Presenting oneself in the best light is one thing, but outright lying is quite another.
Online dating was supposed to make it easier to meet and screen potential dates, but sometimes it seems as if it’s just added one more layer of effort that requires you to filter out the crazies to get to the good ones.
Seeking Arrangement caters to a very specific type of relationship, but the lessons here should apply to other dating sites and even to other aspects of digital life, Leroy Velasquez, a Seeking Arrangement spokesman, tells . It's a really crappy version of what a man or woman would get on a dating profile," he says.
A person who constantly makes plans and then cancels them, or who can talk on the phone only at certain times of the day, either has an incredibly demanding job or is not quite as single as she claims.
It’s sad, but many married people troll dating sites, either looking for some action on the side or just seeking validation.
But the good ones are indeed out there, and luckily, the bad ones usually reveal themselves early in the process.
Watching out for these warning signs can make it easier to take a relationship from email to in-person.
Then a person on staff looks through the flagged profiles and decides whom to ban, Velasquez says.